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Britons are sending an incredible 30m more postcards annually than they were five years ago, according to the Post Office. I find this the most cheering news, obsessed as I am with the tragic demise of “proper”, as in pen-and-ink, correspondence.
Most of the people writing out the postcards could e-mail instead, or send a charmless text; what with sophisticated mobile phones and digital cameras, they could even send images of their whereabouts. But no: they choose the slightly cheesy postcard instead.
Perhaps it’s a form of bragging – “I’m on a golden beach and you’re not” – but it is also a long overdue and welcome return to the poetic and evocative art of putting pen to paper. There is nothing nicer than receiving a communication that involves ink and a stamp – it’s like finding a tiny present on the doormat of a morning and it hardly ever happens any more: even love letters are delivered via e-mail and all the doormat has to offer most mornings is bills and circulars.
I hope that this newfound love of the postcard eventually translates into a rediscovery of the joys of letter writing: whatever you can say in person, or electronically, is 100 times more resonant and significant if it’s written down – even if it's only “Wish you were here”.
Apart from the fact that it is completely illegal and that I don’t in any sense recommend or condone it, I don’t actually think there is anything especially heinous about teenagers experimenting with the softer drugs. I’d prefer them to be tucked up in bed familiarising themselves with Kant or Spinoza, or going for 10-mile runs, but we do need to keep a degree of realism about these things. The reality is that for the majority of young people the odd period of light recreational drug use does little harm. I’m not talking about crack or heroin – but then most children don’t experiment with crack or heroin.
A quarter of England’s secondary school pupils have taken illegal drugs at least once, according to figures released last week by the NHS Information Centre. This is a 4% fall since the previous set of figures in 2001 – but it still means that more than 40% of the nation’s 15-year-olds are likely to have tried drugs; 6% of 11-year-olds had taken drugs in the past year and 3% in the past month.
Obviously I am firmly of the opinion that 11-year-olds should be playing with their dollies, not taking illicit substances (does anyone play with dolls past the age of five any more? I was devoted to mine until I was about 12). But I don’t find the figures for teenagers especially alarming. I know we’re all supposed to tremble in our boots at the evil of recreational drug-taking but experimenting with drugs just seems to me normal – banal, really.
Teenage binge-drinking is another story, because soft drugs don’t cause you to get cirrhosis when you’re still in your early twenties, or render you so out of it that you get raped, or leave the streets of Britain awash with vomit (although the figures for alcohol have dropped slightly since 2001 – teenagers are drinking marginally less, which is cheering, although they are averaging 12.7 units a week, which isn’t).
Possibly I feel this way because I liked taking (soft) drugs when I was a teenager myself – my fondness for marijuana got me expelled from boarding school, in fact, due to an unfortunate incident during an Italian translation class. The vocab had struck me as so intensely hilarious – it was something to do with Jesus at Gethsemane – that I couldn’t control my laughter, fell off my chair and lay on the ground, convulsed with mirth, unable to obey increasingly furious orders to get up.
The fact is that this had only positive consequences: I changed schools, stopped having to play bloody lacrosse (the sheer hell of which had sent me in search of new pastimes in the first place), moved home to London, regained normal freedoms and occasionally took more drugs. By the time I went to university I had grown bored with the druggy scene and had evolved enough to get over the sense that drugs were exciting and naughty – an insight, I observe, that still eludes many less precocious middle-aged types, 20-odd years later.
God save us from cringe-making naffness of the “cool” (they wish) kidults with the paunch and the mortgage and the coke habit: the great advantage of moderate teenage drug-taking is that, by the time you’re 20, you understand perfectly that there is nothing glamorous about spontaneous nosebleeds or talking very fast.
I know people in their fifties, whose teenagehoods were models of probity, who still haven’t fathomed this one out. It’s worth bearing in mind if you’re despairing of your dopey 16-year-old: at least he or she is unlikely to turn into an embarrassing dopey adult.
All of which makes me think that a bit of teenage soft drug-taking is, for the vast majority, simply a rite of passage. Just as having underage sex doesn’t turn you into a nymphomaniac, so underage drug-taking tends, in the vast majority of cases, not to turn you into a tragic junkie. There will always be exceptions, of course – several of my teenage drug-taking companions ended up in rehab and a couple still struggle with various addictions.
In my experience this is often to do with certain depressive personality traits which would have manifested themselves in one destructive way or another in due course anyway. And, of course, when I was young, the noxious strands of skunk that are around today didn’t exist, so I doubt that any of my contemporaries became psychotic as a result of smoking a joint.
Abstinence is best of all, it goes without saying. But in the absence of abstinence, soft drugs often have something to recommend them over alcohol. I’m not saying this as a partaker, but as an observer – asa person, say, who is trying to get from A toB at 11pm. A clean-living friend recently spent a weekend partying (without artificial help) in Ibiza and couldn’t help noting that although every person he came across was on ecstasy, they were all smiling, kind, polite, courteous and friendly.
Compare and contrast, he said, with trying to walk through central London on a Friday night, when every other person is loud, obscene, aggressive and trying to start a fight and there’s always some poor sod on the night bus with a bleeding face, to say nothing of crumpled girls who are either crying or comatose with drink. “I know which I prefer,” he said, and so do I.
The real fact of the matter is that drugs are no longer cool – they haven’t been since roughly 1987 (when acid house reigned and young people’s social lives were revolutionised by the cheapness and availability of ecstasy). Which is why three-quarters have had nothing to do with them – quite a whopping percentage.
For the majority, being cool about drugs means shrugging them off – not because you’re nerdy or square, or because you’re scared, but because you’re intelligent enough to check out Pete Doherty or Amy Winehouse, both touched by genius and both made repulsive through their excesses, and think, “Ew, no thanks”. This doesn’t mean that the spirit of experimentation is dead – teenagers are teenagers and trying things out is part of the process – but it does mean that we can ease off a bit on the gloomy prognosis front.
Smoking the odd (nonskunk) joint isn’t automatically going to turn a teenager into a raving, scabby crackhead. Frankly, it’s more likely to turn him intoa newspaper columnist.

India Knight was born in 1965. She lives in London with her three children, writes a weekly column for The Sunday Times, and a weblog, Isn't She Talking Yet?, on bringing up a child with special needs. She has also written two novels, My Life on a Plate and Don't You Want Me?
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This is a terrific article in that it begins to speak honestly of cannabis. It's good to see the reefer madness most of the media honk can be penetrated by reason.
John Thomas, Atlanta, USA
I'm tired of this "skunk panic". Skunk contains around 3-5x more THC than regular cannibis. (NOT 200x as sometimes reported). With skunk, people just smoke less to achieve the same effect. I don't see anyone saying "pint of beer=ok, double gin=dangerous menace", but it's the same thing!
f. martin naisbrough, Ilkley,
Ms Knight is to be congratulated on writing reasonably on an emotive subject. Regrettably no Government will ever open up a sensible debate on this subject, because the rabid red tops, won't allow it. Alcohol causes far more damage to individuals and society in terms of financial cost and health.
Christine, Wiltshire, UK
Experimentation is fine but even cannabis can get out of hand. My partner smoked a lot in his youth and wasted two years of his life, unemployed and lazy, til he woke up and realised what an idiot he was being, all due to softdrugs. Recreational use is fine but one mustn't let it become a lifestyle.
Margot, Fife,
I believe, for some, once you start with a cigerrette progress to a soft drug the downward spiral into heroin addiction is the inevertable outcome do you say don't do it to a teenager, or try it all and get over it? Which is the responseable route to send your kids?
Dave Farmer, Broxbourne, England
Kim - India is a woman - or a weirdly named guy who likes dolls!
Also, she has not said everyone should go out & smoke, or denying it can cause problems. Anyway smoking pot or using soft drugs doesn't generally lead to extreme violence - that's the realm of class a's (cocaine) and alcohol!
Gemma, Notts,
Ms Knight seems to be getting a lot of flak for 'encouraging' drug use here which is blatently not the case. We've become so accustomed to the 'spliff at 15 crack babies by 16' media take on drugs that any varying opinion smells like endorsement. Anyone refusing basic discussion is frankly a nazi.
Angela, Norwich, england
drugs are often taken in combination- so it is skunk and alcohol not one or the other. the amount smoked can kill any ambition to do something/anything and this isn't good. there are also the significant minority that will be mentally hurt by the drug. it is bad news
david, london, england
Ron in Toronto? Ah, ha. ha ha hahahahahahahahahaha!
Rob, Launceston, UK
I know people who dabbled in hard drugs after smoking weed. And many drank too. Some came off worse than others. This booze v drugs row is besides the point, society's troublemakers/losers are doing way too much of both.
Helen Maher, London,
Why do people, young or old, want to "experiment" ?
Is life really so 'empty'?
Justification on the back of a postage stamp please.
Grace, Edmonton, London
you dont touch on the negatives that drugs can provide , lots of kids on poor forgotten about council estates with nothing get into drugs for the escapism from the doom and gloom of there lives ,they are the ones who will do crack and smack , but then again they wont make it to uni like you did..
ian , shrop, england
For those who support cannibis, please work to get it legalized BEFORE legalizing it's use. Otherwise you are encouraging the willful breaking of a law. Not a great lesson for our children, is it?
For various reasons, I would vote to make marijuana legal. But, I will NOT endorse it, until it is.
Dan, Portland, US
In my opinion parents should not fall prey to such misleading notions regarding drugs whatever type of they may be.They should always remember that prevention is always better than cure.
Abdul Nasir Ansari, Bhit Shah, pakistan
Cannabis is only dangerous when mixed with tobacco. It is prohibition which has caused problems. I live in a town centre and see every weekend the damage caused by alcohol abuse. Cannabis should be licensed in the same way as alcohol, also to remove the link with hard drugs like heroin and 'crack' .
Bill, Bath,
A paunch and coke habit? Not the most likely of combinations.
Eric, London,
@ Carol, Mich, USA
So some people are predisposed to having a psychotic break on marijuana. Some people are predisposed to an alcohol addiction, too: we call them alcoholics.
Any recreational drug, be it nicotine, alcohol, cannabinol or anything else, can cause trouble for those so predisposed.
RW, Victoria, BC, Canada
Most young people in London, who are carrying knives at this very moment, have little or no interest in alcohol. They smoke skunk and lots of it.
Tim, Watford, UK
Use greenhouses full of hemp as carbon capture
steve, UK,
How do you know if you are going to become an Amy Winehuse, Pete Doherty type or just have a harmless flirt with drugs? There is no guarantee and that is, to my mind, what experimenters love, the uncertainty. Of course, they all think they can 'manage it' but is it worth the risk? I would say no.
kim, london,
How easy it was for this writer, obviously from a white middle to upper class background, to just take what he wanted and then walk away from drugs. The poor council estate children do not have such an option, often paying with extreme violence or their lives for their 'dabble' in drugs.
kim, london,
Just as long these teenagers sue their friendly neighbourhood drug dealers for the future problems that might occur e.g addiction, mental illness etc. Usually they don't as they get worse; they just make other people's life miserable.
Carolyn, Surbiton,
<<<What about all the corruption the cocaine trade brings to Colombia and many other developing countries? >>>
The answer is simple. END PROHIBITION.
Frank, London,
So you're just another druggie,wandering through life trying to justify your behavior to people around you.Too bad.I live next door to two cretins that started on soft drugs.I wish they lived with you.Wandering through life in a drug induced haze isn't my cup of tea.
ron, toronto,
Amidst years of rationalizations and selling of marijuana as harmless, since at least the late '40's, when research was done for psychiatric purposes in the US, it has been known that even one joint can cause a psychotic break with a predisposed person.
Sorry,smoke at your peril.Hard but true.
Carol, Mich., USA
Alan Bates is right to point to the fact that drug prohibition causes crime, corruption, criminalisation of users and often a slide of users into prostitution and crime. And for what? Nothing!! Prohibition stops NO ONE. Why do you call for it then Mr Bates? An excellent article btw, quite a shock
mike, Newmarket, UK
Alan Bates, London UK. If you take that stance then i suppose we had all better stop using oil to run our cars and produce energy.
The fact of the matter is that getting stoned on weed is no big deal. Unlike the marauding binge drinkers and their aggresive behaviour.
Patrick, London,
Utter nonsense. Bright intelligent people can do drugs & get drunk etc and usually have long and prosperous lives, but many others will have their lives and their families lives ruined by these things. If you condone it then you must expect the social and criminal problems that will come with it
adrian, London,
Excellent and correct article. People on soft drugs are extremely easy and pleasant to deal with.
Brian, Melbourne,
What about all the corruption, landmines (laid to protect the drug factories), murders and other miseries that the cocaine trade brings to Colombia and many other developing countries? There is no such thing as 'fair trade' cocaine - let's tell teenagers the truth about that.
Alan Bates, London UK,
Splendid article. Alcohol causes young people to fight, vomit and collapse in the street, I challenge anyone to find an aggressive stoned person! Soft drugs, when taken experimentally, induce one to be friendly, happy and courteous, as described above, whereas alcohol causes extremes of emotion.
Alastair, Chicago,
I'm a mid-50s American who tried some soft and hard drugs in my teens. My life is peaceful and career is never better. I smoke a puff of Amsterdam's finest a few times a day for positive effects in quality of life. Fortunately I can get the stuff without problem. 21st Century aspirin. Amen to that!
Tom Pierson, Parkland FL, USA